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But I'll just say this, I am at a stage in my life where I am deciding between going to the monastery and becoming a monk or hitting the streets and becoming a full time Uh, I am, I'm just I'm just saying because you know, I have discovered and I have learned that being a good person does not mean a damn thing in twenty twenty three, He's no, you're no, no, but this now what this section is about. That was just saying, it's about what I'm talking about this. I'm just just say where I'm at right now. Okay. So so it's it's all good, It's all good. Tell how you doing. Sorry, I'm doing great. I'm doing great. Another week down? This is you're flying by? Yeah, already pretty much the end of the first quarter. So I mean we what if it's it's going by? Man, It really is those people that they were not lying. You know how your grandmother used to say, like, enjoy your high school because as soon as you know, as soon as you graduate from high school, you gonn look up and everything gonna be botty. Well, she wasn't lying. Time flies so much faster now than it did at least, you know, it seemed like when we were young, it seemed like couldn't wait to be a grown up and now you're grown up and it's like back and be a kid. Oh you gotta pay bills again this month? Oh yeah, okay, and next month so we don't get no break like a summer vacation from from from bills. No, okay, cool? Felt that in my soul. Yea, yeah, I definitely feel that. Brother. Um it's uh and it's funny too, you said the high school. I was actually just thinking about this, um today. I hated high school, but like in middle school, junior high, like, oh, those were the most most fun times because I didn't have a care in the world. All you had dudes, wake up, show up, go to school, kicking with your friends, do your work sometimes and and go home. Man. I had a man. I had a ball. Like my sixth, seventh, and eighth grade years, I had a ball. Man. You know what, dr Junior high actually was my favorite, like in between like elementary in high school. I gotta say, yeah, yeah, what about your doctor. I really enjoyed middle school. In high school, I can't even lie to you. I enjoyed it, and then looking back on it, I'm more fond of it even more so now just you know the time, the people. It was just simple, right, It was just simple. Like the things that seem to have mattered really in the grand scheme didn't matter, you know, any sort of just nonsense. You could get into trouble and it really not be a big deal. Right now, we get into trouble, it's like it's gonna cost you some money or something. You know, you just didn't have any the things you cared about. Really weren't that that serious? Right, I've kind of missed that, you know, just the lack of responsibility. But I also enjoyed this time too, because having responsibility is a good thing too. Yeah, it is a good thing, but it's not always fun. Let's just take me back, please. I will do all my work and pay attention and like you know, I will just mind my business too, lad, Right right, So, UM, we have a lot of things to discuss today. This first topic is obviously, um, a very sad topic. UM. It's about the four Americans, four black South Carolinians to be exact, were kidnapped and in Mexico. They went down to Mexico, um to have a cosmetic surgery proceeding, and um, they were kidnapped, two of them were killed. Um, and the other one, I believe one of the ones that survived was was shot as well, were wounded, but they survived. And um and the woman because it was three guys and a woman and the woman was unharmed. Um, that was very disturbing to see. I mean, it's you know, a lot of people like to go to Mexico, they like to go to Camcoon, I like to go to all of these different places, and you know, it's a little disturbing to see that. You know, the Mexico is pretty much been overrun by the cartels, and you know, by the wars and stuff that are going on, and they make our gangs. Look. Man, you if you think our gangs are bad, you do not want to mess with the cartels. The cartels are no joke. They are ruthless and brutal. So it's it's sad to see. And now you can't even really you can't go to Cacoon, can't go kick it in Mexico nor more. Um, down to your thoughts, Yeah, I mean speaking of just gangs and stuff like, I mean, there's a whole different level of ruthlessness and brutality and also just a certain stratosphere of money that the cartels have that American gangs really don't. I mean you, the cartels in some cases run are more powerful than local governments, right, And this is all this has been a problem throughout various parts of South America, where you know, politicians have been killed. Like, I don't think people really understand how dangerous it is to be a politician if you come in, if you're in the crosshairs of like a cartel boss right like here in America, you may have a situation where it's like, you know, a gang leader may not get along, may not like the mayor or something like that, but he's not gonna kill them right over there, Yea, they just might, right. So that is in and of itself terrifying, especially when you know these these organizations are so wealthy because of a drug trade that you really cannot eliminate them. And then just being an American, I mean, may not speaking the best Spanish to go over there. And I'm not sure what they were over there for. I thought, and correct me if I'm wrong. If it may have been for like a surgery or a procedure or something, Yeah it was surgery, or yeah, specifically it was for a tummy tough. Yeah, that that's just a it's just an awful situation. I they probably panicked that. I've I've always heard that you could say things like I'm an American, I'm an American, I'm an American, and maybe they'll let you go. Um, but that's just a terrible, terrible situation. I've you know, that's one of those things where if you're gonna go there and you don't speak fluent Spanish and you don't really know your way around, maybe it's just best to stay at a resort or you know, do something else. I you know, I don't know. Man, that's tough. Yeah, yeah it is, man, it really is. Robin. Your thoughts, Well, Mexico is no longer on a bucket list. It's crazy because I was actually supposed to go last year for a fashion show, and you know, I had a friend that was there. It was a designer, and I was told like the certain areas that they went to was like very unsafe, like leaving outside of where the resort was like just to go to a store or whatever, like you have to travel and it was like dangerous and you can tell like it wasn't. No, it wasn't no good, right, And you know it's just crazy. You know, in this story alone, you know, the girl was just like they a group of friends just traveling the world, like they just living their life. I mean, despite this, you know, the fact that she was going for you know, bodywork or whatever the case may be. But like that's just crazy. But just then, and it blows my mind because they apologize like that y'all got reported to the headquarters. Like y'all got reported to the headquarters. Uh, And you know, I think that they were talking about um sending those very men, those very said men from the cartel to the Americans. Yeah, I've heard that. I don't know if that's I don't know how accus that is, but I've heard that too. Oh yeah, I mean yeah. But in the end, like my personal opinion on that is, like i mean not that it really matters or accounts, but it's just like that's not gonna bring these people back, right, I mean yeah, i mean, I'm sure they're gonna get their punishment, but it's just like it's not gonna bring these innocent people back. Like what what is that gonna do? Yeah? Well, I mean there still needs to be justice. Justice needs to be served for what for what they did? Um, you it would be in the best interest of those of the people that did it that the justice is served by America and not the cartels. Um, but real quick, go ahead, I would say, I mean, yeah, the justice part. But like the apology, an apology. They probably were forced to do that. But like apology is like for something small Dante, why don't you why don't you say and we'll close on this, why don't you say why? They thought it was probably in their best interest to apology because they don't want the DA or you know, the ATF or any of these alphabet organizations from the United States meddling in their affairs. They were probably forced to apologize. Um. That's probably somebody who was very high up in the cartel was like, y'all need to try to fix this because this is gonna the backlash is gonna come down on everybody and you know, nobody, nobody in a foreign country that's doing dirt once the United States thumb in their business, because soon it's gonna be booted to your behind if the United States gets involved. So that's probably why they went ahead. In a part they were forced to do that. Oh yeah, they're scared, like they're scared of the American government. I'm not saying that they're scared of people, because they're generally not, but they don't they don't want to mess with the American government. So that's understandable. But obviously, rest in peace to the two people who were killed, and I pray for a speedy recovery for the two the other two that was there, and hopefully something gets addressed. I know. Senator Lindsey Grant, we tweeted this out earlier this week, who is a South Carolina senator, is introducing a bill in Congress that would designate the Cartels as a terrorist organization and authorize the military to use forced to go shut them down. And this this kind of goes back to Dante's point. This is probably the worst case scenario for them because regardless even beyond the Alphabet agencies, regardless of all the power that the Cartels have, they don't have a power of the US military. No. Yeah, So if the military gets involved, that's that's game over. So this is why they probably had those people to apologize, and this is why it would be in the best interest of the people who did this to get out of Mexico as soon as possible, because I'm sure that their cartel and every other cartail is not too thrilled about what they did. So on that note, stay tuned. We have Tea Time with Rome coming up next here on the albums. Hey y'all, this is Ali Michelle. I'm a conservative social media influencer that has been censored by big tech, so I broke away from the restrictions and started a podcast called pillow Talk with Alie Michelle. My show is a space to have real conversations about the issues that impact our everyday lives without the fear of being canceled by the big tech tyrants. Subscribe to pillow Talk with Alie Michelle and FCB podcast on Apple, Spotify, iHeart, or wherever you get podcasts. That's Ali a l II. Come check on my show. I'll see you there. Real talk, real conversations. We got the Yes, this is the Laws Radio Show. Welcome back, Welcome back. You're listening to the Outlaws. Then now is the time to show that we like to call tea Time with row, turn it up, conflation, the latest celebrity news and gossip. It's Tea Time. With the row on the Outlaws radio show. All right, y'all, So actually I got a lot of tea for you today. UM, so we are gonna start with this one. It is so, y'all, remember when Will Smith smack the f out of Chris Rock? Remember that, Yes, that was funny, but then everybody was like dogging, Well, look, we need to take that back because shout out to Will Smith. Um, so Chris Rock was you know. So basically he for decades he has harassed Um Jada and he's also harassed UM. I believe that he had some harassment towards UM, Michael Jackson and R Kelly, and so basically he was talking crap about all three different people, all three people like lives and he got a lot of backlash for it. Like after you got the dogs smack out of you, you went back on live talking more crap, like make it makes sense. So if I recall when when the incident first happened, UM, we were generally kind of middle of the road about it, even even actually you know, to the point of understanding Will's perspective, which a lot of people didn't want to bring up at that time. Um, there are some people who are upset. What Robin is referring to is Chris Rock's new live special, which is on Netflix. Um, there are some people who are kind of upset about some of the things that Chris Rock said, especially um, when he made a basic be a slave joke, he said that, uh, he watches Emancipation, which starts Will Smith playing a slave. He watches Emancipation just to see Will get whipped. Um. There were you know, some people who were not too thrilled or too happy about that. Um. And also too, you know, there's some people who feel some type of way about you know him again talking about the very thing that got him slapped in the first place. UM. I would love to know the conversations behind closed doors. UM, because when it's when it happened, there was a rumor, it hasn't been confirmed, but there was a rumor that you know, Will had asked Chris not to go in on his wife on the stage, and and you know that was the result of that. Um. That's a rumor of those So I don't know if that's accurate or not. But UM, donta your thoughts on Chris Rock's comments on especially he Chris Rock is one of my favorite comedians. He is quickly become one of my least favorite people just because I just it just violates so much of what I believe in. Like a man slamack you like you got smacked and walk away. He basically made you out to be a B word in front of the whole world. Right, you can't mention that man's name no more. You don't get to talk about him no more. It's like in a basketball game, if we win a championship, you can't talk smacked to me. We the champs, we beat y'all. You know what I'm saying, Like, you don't get to talk smack to me, you don't get to you don't get to Cloud Chase getting punked. That's just me as a person. It works for Chris Rock, it works. He is again one of my favorite comedians of all time. Just in stand up. I think the guy, at least when he was like at his apex, was hilarious. If you haven't heard the O. J. Simpson joke, you should go on YouTube. I don't I don't agree with it, but I understand will help you find it. I think it's the most hilarious thing in the world. I think it's highly inappropriate for two and twenty three, which is why it's so funny. That is, you know that stand up comedy, right though it should make you uncomfortable, it should make you laugh. I think Chris Rock was one of the best at that. I ain't say any Richard Pryor, but I think he right underneath that, right. I think it's the Eddie Murphy Richard Pryor to here, and then it's I think Chris Rock is right underneath those guys. So I love Chris Rock as a comedian. But this just it's just like, man, I wish you would have retired, Like, just retire. This is kind of weak to me too, Like and you tell me what you think done like because his whole excuse is like, we'll look at me and look at will right like I got. I wouldn't gonna do anything back to him on stage, hit him, look at me right now. Here's my thing, And I want to know what your perspective is, Dante, specifically, even if I know I'm gonna get my ass kicked, I can't let you do that to me, but correct correct. I'd rather I'd rather get dog walked. I'd rather get beat up and fight back. Than to just get humped like he did, right, serious, because I can't know even if I if I lose, a lose and you know you're not gonna get like just man handle because they're gonna break it up. Right, this is the oscars you. You you can't just let him, let him grown man smack you in the face and Walker turn his back on you, which could be the most disrespectful thing of this. You ain't ish I'm gonna do to you, and I know you ain't gonna do nothing better I have. That is the ultimate level of I have no respect for you as a man. Even if you punched me in the back of my head, I ain't worried about it, ye deuce, I dare you to do something that is And then now that he doesn't sat down, he's still cussing me out no nose like I'd rather lose. I'd rather throw a punch, slip for I'd rather lose. I'd rather get slammed on my head. Didn't didn't have something like that happened to me because let me has children well, and then on top of that, and then then we'll go back rubbing like on top of that too. Now you wait a whole year, a whole year, like literally, damn there, literally an entire calendar year. Now you want to talk some trash, Come on, man, now you look you looked soft by letting him slappy, and he didn't do anything on national television. Now to me, everybody like, ooh, did you hear what Chris rub said? You clapping back at he clapping back at jadool. It's a year later, bro, Nah, you don't get to they don't get to get slapped on national TV. Do nothing, and then wait an entire year and then get on stage and want to act and want to play Billy badass. I'm sorry, No, nope, we don't believe you. We don't believe you. Robin go right at him. So I was actually gonna say so Taj Jackson, she basically had wrote out a thing and she said, Chris Rock has used my family. That's a heat. Oh, it's okay. So Chris Rock has used my family as a punching bag for his entire career. Yet I'm supposed to feel bad for him getting slapped and human humiliated at the Oscars after seeing a new clip of him attacking my dad or this is his uncle, my dad uncle in the first minutes of his retaliation. I'm still relevant, um special. I have three things to say. One, what did my family ever do to you? Um? For these decades of harassment and your constant bullying disguised as jokes too? Just because you were just because you were bullied early on in life doesn't give you the excuse to bully others. Now. Three thank you Will Smith, ha ha ha ha. Well alrighty man, all right, okay, So the next thing is so Summer Walker. So I don't know if a lot of people so Summer Walker is a singer. She does an R and B. I guess, um. Yeah. So, so back when she first started in her career, early on in her career, she had a lot of what she said, She said that she had social anxiety, so she like wouldn't perform. She didn't like performing um and shows and stuff and like, so she was really to herself. But she said, it took me twenty seven years to figure out why I'm so shy. It's because I'm trying real hard not to say something crazy. I'm literally walking around over here or overthinking how to not hurt anyone's feelings. Deep down, I'm ghetto a f and I'd be scared I'm gonna get canceled. Uh. I mean, at least she knows how she is because Darby O. You know, guys, both y'all like me, for example, like you, I will, but I'm all but Darby, I won't let me. So there's been times right that thing, we'd be like, Robin, don't do that, don't do that, don't do that. Yeah, you God, you've been making me be quiet too, because y'all both know. So I can't relate. I can't relate to this a little I think everybody can relate to it a little bit. You know, maybe everybody may not be able to relate to the ghetto part. I mean I can because I'm I'm a little ghetto too, But um, I think everybody can relate to the walking on eggshells part, because that's that's the world we live in. Everybody's everybody's looking to cancel you. Everybody's waiting to see you slip on a banana pill to be like, hey, look and see what they're doing, you know what I mean, Like everybody's waiting for you to fail. Um, And that's kind of the world that we live in. Now it's like if you say one thing that hurts the sensibilities of one person, now you have an entire Yeah, now you have an entire group of people. You know, you make a joke about people with nine toes, now you have the National Association of the nine told community people ready to Truthfully, I wouldn't even I don't know if she even should have used that proper. I mean, yeah, she might know that she might have a little ghetto in her, you know what I mean. But truthfully, let's be honest, it's not even about about being ghetto. It's about being blunt, you know, and just saying what it is. Well. And like I said, I think that that's that's the part I think that everybody can kind of relate to because we're all I mean, we were just kind of joking before the show about something that Don Jay brought up. We're like, no, we're not talking about that around get canceled, you know what I mean, what was it? What was it? We ain't doing I don't remember what was you know, damn well, really talking about it on the air, But um, you know, so, so that is I think everybody kind of has that concern because everybody's so sensitive now you know what I mean? Um, and uh yeah, I mean I think most people can relate to that, you know, And that's why I'm sorry. That's why you know, I've learned when I speak to people, because honestly, I used to be that way where I was like really really sensitive, and I've you know, I've grown some soft skin over the years. Um, you know where people like how I learned how to do it. So people always used to have to watch how they say things to me. They would have to word it particularly a specific way or yeah, yeah, y'all should have saw y'all should have saw how she was when she first got here, Come my night. Look. But like I've learned, like you know, and that's how you know, I've learned how to speak to people because I know, like certain people that I deal with, I know how they are that they get there, they get upset or triggered very easily. And I've learned how to speak to people, Um, so they keep calm and they hear me when I'm speaking to them rather than getting angry and upset. Right, exactly, tell yoursels. I just think that I think celebrities are fascinating in that the public usually builds them up just to wait to knock them down, you know what I'm saying, Like, I remember Summer Walker being like a darling where people was like, oh, she's so cute, she makes good music, and now she's so afraid that, you know, like her anxiety. It's basically trapped her because she knows one false step you out of here. And it's I don't know what that is about our society because we see it in every single walk of life, right like, well, the new young athlete, we build them up, Oh, you're gonna be the next Lebron, You're gonna be the next Michael Jordan, and then you miss a shot. Name suck. You know, It's it's it's it's amazing how these people really live their entire life on display, and so it's it I actually appreciate when one of them speaks candidly about things that they go through, even though even you know, even that can put you sort of in harm's way because people will say, well, if you know, I wouldn't be feeling like that if I was making so much money. So I just think that celebrity in general, I think it's fascinating how these people live, not obsessed with it in terms of like too much to care to watch them on reality shows or to go out of my way to follow them. But I just think I'm not even so sure that like fame is healthy, you know what I'm saying. Like the older I get. When I was younger, I used to I used to think, like, man, it would be so cool to be famous, and now it's like, I love privacy. I was Lebron talk one time and he was like, it just it's just not He wasn't complaining. He was like, it's just like certain things that you can do I just can't do, Like I can't go to the movies. And so last week I went to the movies with my mom and we saw a Creed and so on a drive back, I was thinking, man, so like Lebron ain't been able to do this since he was like fifteen years old. He's thirty eight. Now he'll never be able to do it again, like just hop in a car and go to the movies. Yeah, like that, it's just crazy, you know. So I'm sure she deals with you know, they all deal with some sort of anxiety and things like that, because like you said, one you say the wrong thing. They ask you something, they ask you something about like what we were talking about off the air, right, and you just you say the wrong thing. You're done over, You're done, You're done. And you know it's it's funny too, because I mean we're like, that's a whole different level, right, That's a that's a totally different level. But when you have any sort of I don't know if I want us to use the word fame or notoriety or cloud or anything like, if you have if you're in the public eye at all, you know, there's all of us kind of have a little piece of something. I remember when I was when I got this early show, um, before the Outlaws, before I created the Outlaws. It was another show that we were doing, UM that I created UM on a station here in town. And the show got pretty you know, well known and pretty popular and all that kind of stuff. UM. Nowhere near on the level of The Outlaws, but it was, you know, it was it had its own, you know, level of successful or whatever. And I was still at this time, I was still kind of like going to the clubs. I was starting to slow down, um going to the clubs. Now, you know, I'm if I'm out, I'm more like a bar guy. I don't going to go to clubs all that much anymore, But back then I was still kind of going to clubs. And you know, I got in a situation where I met a young lady at the club who wanted me to take her home, and I'm like, hell, no, not happy. Because my thought process, I was smart enough to understand that whatever happened, especially when she first tried to give me to take her own, I'm like no. Then she wanted to me to take her to her house, and she just told me how her boyfriend lat together. You're crazy this hell, that's definitely what happening. Oh she braves, that's definitely like him, right, are you nuts? Because then what happens and this is this is one of the main reasons. Now some of my other own boys, who who aren't in this business, who aren't in this space, you know, they was like, man, you tripped it, man, you should have did it right. But my thought process was like, look, if this thing goes wrong, if anything goes left, the headline, it's gonna make the headline because it's gonna be talk show host talk personality Darby o'morrow blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah. Right, Nope, not dead. It not doing it And it could be that you end up dead. Yeah, you live with her boyfriend. He come home with a gun man? Are you crazy? Are you crazy? I was like, man, you guilty. I don't know any dude that would say yes to that. Most dudes, if they dating a chip that's got somebody, they come and they're comfortable with sneaking and creeping. They trying to go back to their house, a hotel, her house man. Not dangerous, yep, But but you do. That's one of the things that gets me so irritated sometimes when I see these guys who are more known than we are, have more money than we do, and they make worst decisions. It's like, why you have more to lose? You know what? I'm h why I'm afraid to ask. Stop? And this is something that we talk about this on the show and we joke about it. But it can save your life, It can save you a lot of money, It could save your relationship. Stop too young men between the ages of nine and really until it don't work no more. Stop being so horny yeah, because that will get you in so much trouble. Stop. Just think about it for a second. Think about what's the worst thing that can happen here? Okay, if I go to her house and her bill do come out, Maybe he got a gun, maybe he got a knife, maybe he just want to fistfight. I don't want to do nothing. Just just it's a thousand other women out here, bro, right, and you have this other element too, because if you out here just flinging with a random know what I'm saying, You also have this element now for men, specifically in this day and age. You gotta be careful, brothers, so you don't get me too. Me too. And the thing that so many people seem to forget, diseasus are real. I know she cold, I know she fine, Bro, What are what are the chances if she she has zero regard for her dude, for herself, she said come back to my house where me and him live together. So not only is she having sex with him, she definitely if she that ball, she definitely having sex with other people too. You would not be the only person. So that means the chances are she has come in contact with somebody who's dirty. She ain't got no respect for herself or for nothing right, which is like, honestly, man, that's it. That always, from the time that I was a little kid, kept me from just being the most ridiculous, you know, slanger out here because it's like, oh, you can catch what and never get rid of it? Oh no, that was hey, that was my first. That was my one of my first real nights party in vip um so. Me and my uh my former co host. We went to a club and we saw another friend of ours in the business who started with me and he at the time like he was good dude. He ran the city right and actually right now, ironically right now he works for the NBA um so, but he was that dude. And you know, we had a little juice too, and you know it was like, hey, come on, it was he he was one of the VPP or whatever, and he was like, hey, hoping to road. Let him up, Let him up, Let him up. So me, me and my dude come up. We're kicking a party and pop bottles, doing the whole thing right, and old girl was looking and here we go. You know what I'm saying, And that's how the whole thing that's how the whole thing went down. Like one of my dudes was on the floor while I was sitting uh in VP and he was like, hey, due, I'm like yo, he like this girl want to dance, which I said, who He said, this girl right here? So I go down. We're doing on one two or whatever. She want to come back up to v IP, right, because of course she does, And so that happens, and I'm sitting down. She danced, She dancing on me, my home boy. The CHICKI was with she did, and they almost like having a torque off competition, right, who can who can do it better? Right? And then that's when she hit me like that's when she hit me with the I want to go home with you? Oh nope. And then after that was when she hit me with the well let's go back to black and she and she told me like, yeah, I came out here because I got mad and my boyfriend we did together. I'm like, hell no, she was gonna bring homeless innocent man, yep, because she wanted to get make her boyfriend at Robin. Do you understand why I am so jaded today? I have seen when you've been in the entertainment industry. I've been in the entertainment business since officially since I was nineteen years old. You see all kinds of it when you've been in this business as long as I. I didn't know if I ever told you all that story or not, but I just told you on the air, So yeah, that was you know what I swear. The more I like pay attention. I was just saying that earlier, I had made a comment on a post and I actually ended up deleting it because I just knew they was gonna eat me alive. But it's just like, the more I opened my eyes and just pay attention and learn, it's just like these females are truly something else. They are entitled little brats that just like I don't even know, just messy, and it's just so much I can just say. But like it's a lot. Well and see, here's the thing too, Robin. And this is why I like when we get into a lot of these conversations. You know, one of the things that I'm gonna peel the curtain back a little bit and I'm gonna give your flowers and public. One of the things that I respect about you was your willingness to grow your willingness, to change your willingness to be like, you know what, maybe this ain't the best way to doing doing this. I've been doing it like this and I haven't. I'm not satisfied with the results I've been getting. Maybe I need to switch things up. You you've been willing to do that, and I respect that. There's a there's a lot of there's a lot of women. I mean, I'm not don't don't get mad at me. Don't send me no hate mail, y'all. But there's a lot of women in twenty twenty three who are not willing to do what you did. Thank you. You know what I'm saying, because I mean, Robert has grown a lot, hasn't she, Dante? Because before, ain't that the truth? Rob everybody? Look, let me just humble. Let me humble some spirits, a little bit at you know, Okay, put some sizzle into some spirits. Do not get that confused, though, because we know you'll still go to jail. We know that. Like I'm a humble and I'm chill, and I'm at peace and I meditate, you know, and whatnot. But like that that role that was before, she's just sleeping. Hey, Dante, have you ever noticed, have you ever noticed that the women who have like alter egos of themselves are always the ones who are the most dangerous, extremely extreme. As long as as long as I'm as long as you know I'm not triggered enough, you good, Well, we're gonna leave. We're gonna we'll leave. We'll leave this part in that because I was taking this moment to give you your flowers. So I don't want to take them back, take them back. I'm still humble, I'm still so I'm just reminding people. So, h if you got anything else you want to add on this, If not, we'll go to the last topic. Nah, we're good, all right. So the last one is Kirk Franklin. So his daughter, Why I will go with this. So he originally he wants people to bring back real names for babies. So his daughter recently had a baby, and you know, he's really happy about the baby's name. But he's just like, we need to take it back a few pages, like back back, like I'm talking like what was some of the names? I'll pull it up. Um. I just know that, you know he started, I know that before the show started. You know, Dante said that he's gonna name his first daughter Geraldine. He did not say that he would never do that to that poor young lady. But he also won't be naming or anything with a love at the beginning. It won't be love gerald Deane either. So you know you can we need to find a happy medium. Kirk, all right, So this is what he said. This is what he said, This is what he said. My daughter, my daughter just gave birth to my second grand child, he continued in the video, A beautiful little girl named Levi. Levi is beautiful. But I told my daughter that I think to say the next generation, we need to go back. We need to go back to real names. The baby should have been named Betty Phyllis Geraldine Ruby. The Grammy winner said he feels parents have moved too far away from traditional names and to change the world, they need to go back to real names. We've moved too far. We need some were shirt Charlene's. You know, we gotta take it back if we're gonna change the world. Bring back Johnny May, Jeanette, Deborah God bless you like what what sounds like somebody granny names like that's not even auntie names. Those are granny names, ain't no way. Listen. I was already mad at my mom and my dad were choosing such a bland name, like y'all couldn't add no little I don't know some something to it. So it's just like I don't know. So like when my kids, I had to be extra with it. So listen, not just not not only did my daughter get a beautiful name, but I made sure both my kids had middle two middle names. Okay, so listen, oh middle names, yes, because listen when I'm mad. When I'm mad, you don't know. And if I if I don't feel like he's in your first name, I'm mad, it's gonna be the one or the other two. They probably longest heck too, ain't the Remember have y'all seen the little clip that's been flowed on social media from an old episode of the Oprah Winfrey Show where that girl had like the longest name in the world. Remember that one. I couldn't even stay none of it. She was like, my name is and my middle name is that Oprah's face? Am I remembering that? Right? Where Oprah's face was kind of like, can you get on with what's going on here? Like she was so confused. I think I remember what you t I think got they said, that's how Robin names. Well, see, originally I actually gave my kids two middle names because their father originally so he had two middle names. So I'm like, yeah, so that's the reason that we had went that we had went with it. But truthfully, like, I don't know, I like their names. But you know, I think my daughter, though she when she made me mad, is more mostly her like when she make me mad, she's mostly her first middle name, like mostly right. All right, On that note, stay tuned. We have Dante's Hotets coming up next here on the Alas. These days, it seems like everybody's talking, but no one is actually listening to the things they're saying. 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So former NFL great Now College coach of Colorado Dion Sanders made some headways when he was talking about his ideal players. He was going down to rabbit hole of the attributes that he was looking for for a quarterback, and he said, well, well we have different attributes. Smart, tough, fast, discipline, with character. Right, that's what he wants. But then when he mentioned quarterbacks, he said, we want mother, father, dual parent. We want the kid that is a three point five gpa and up because he needs to be smart. No bad decisions can come from a single parent home. This drew a lot of ire from people because of the exclusion of can't come from a single parent home. Well, let's just knock off the elephant in the room. Deon Sanders' son is his starting quarterback. Deon Sanders is divorced, which would technically make his son the product of a single parent home by definition. Right, he's obviously in both parents are obviously in the son's life. But you're not married. So that's problem number one. The second thing is you cannot make an assertation. You cannot ascertain anything about someone's decision making based on their parents. I don't know what kind of decisions you make unless I actually spend time with you. And this is a long running thing in football circles where people have been excluded and some people think that there is a racial bias and a class bias when it comes to certain positions. Right, because quarterbacks are generally leader in leadership positions. Usually throughout history, there has been sort of ways to exclude black quarterbacks who may not fit the mode, who may not talk a certain way, not having anything to do with their game, but just something to do with he doesn't look the part. And when I say look the party, not the several shades too dark, or maybe doesn't come from the right background, maybe he's not fit to be a leader. And so people were upset with Dion for doing this because as a coach who has time and time again said I want to uplift certain communities, right, That's part of the reason why he took the job at Jackson State. So he said that's you know, he wanted to expand on that journey by going to Colorado and opening up more doors. It was just a little disappointing to see somebody then turn right around and say something that you're actually bringing up the stereotypes that have been used to gate keep black quarterbacks in the past and minority quarterbacks in the past, and then also just the sometimes when we try to uplift these stereotypes, we we end up not realizing the own irony that your son is in a single parent household because you and your ex wife don't live together. So it's just one of those things where I think people need to be a little bit more careful about what they say, especially when they try and talk about certain things. All you need to do is say we want a quarterback with leadership skills. We want a guy who who the team respects who we believe in, who has some game. You don't have to go into too certain details and backgrounds, right, We don't do that, or we shouldn't do that. When we're hiring on a job, well, I would prefer you to be X, Y and Z because those people are no Usually you get in trouble when you do stuff like that. That's right. I'll make my thoughts brief and then I want to go to Robin and then we'll close it out. But you know, when he I think we did talk about when he left Jackson State on the show, didn't we Yes, yeah, so, And we didn't really crucify him for that like a lot of other people were. There were some nuances I think to the conversation, but we didn't really kill him for that. But when you say something like this, it almost kind of reinforces the narrative of the people who were criticizing him for leaving Jackson State that he sold a bill of goods in terms of really wanting to quote unquote help the community. But it wasn't really about that, right, And you know, to some extent, you know, it wasn't really hardcore, but to some extent we kind of defended him from some of those charges, but for him to do this almost to reinforces that narrated. The other thing too, is like you said, Dante, I think you made a really good point. The decision making of your parents, Like the decisions that your parents made should have no bearings on your decision making. You know, we nine and a half times out of ten, we don't have no choice as to whether you're living in a single parent household or not. You know what I'm saying, you grew up in a single parent household. Don's hey, I you know my parents, both of my parents were involved in my life, but I only lived with one, so technical and they my parents split up when I was young, So technically I grew up in a single parent household. Right, So that doesn't have any what we are having to do with that, right like we we didn't have anything to do with that. So you can't say, you know, I don't want a quarterback of my college to be somebody who comes from a single parent household and you're judging their decision making whether they'll make good decisions based off of that. That's ridiculous. That's ridiculous, and it's it's just not only as an insult to the parents, but an insult to the kids. You know what I'm saying, how many, how many good players of athletes or or entertainers or people that come from all sorts of professions that might have come from single parent households. That's what in America today. And it's not only just I mean, the black thing is a stereotype, but there's a lot of people black, white, and otherwise who come from single parent households these days. You know, I'm not saying that's a great thing. I understand the importance and the value of a two parent household. I do understand that. But at the same time, you know, just because these people came from single parent households doesn't mean that they don't have anything to offer. So, Robin, I wanted to especially go to you, you know, as a sing parent of biracial children, your thoughts on Dion Sanders basically saying that he doesn't want any kid who grew up in a single parent household to be his quarterback because he thinks that a kid from a single parent household may mean that he's not a good decision maker. Um well, he sounds like a clown. Uh but you know, I think that he is judging. I mean, like, just to judge somebody off of something like that is just insane to me because truthfully, there's children, you know, adults who you know, grew up as you know, with both parents in the home, where they make wrong decisions as adults, right, um, ye know what I mean, And it's just like a single parent you know, children that's grew up in a single parent home. Like, yeah, I'm sure that they don't always make good decisions, but at the end of the day, like I don't know, I feel like that's not good to place on them because, like you just said, both of you guys have endured that and I think you guys turned out pretty good. I mean, y'all, y'all be stupid sometimes, but you know right, I love you. I'm sorry, don't come for me, but no, uh no, I just I think that's insane. That is really insane. I mean that just makes me think, you know what I mean, Like for example, like I have a son, you know what I mean, and I think that you know, my son, he has made decisions that probably wasn't the smartest, but at the same point, he's also made decisions that were really good decisions. The same thing with my daughter, you know what I mean, Like they're both intelligent kids, and you know, I think just as a human being alone, we are going to make mistakes. Whether we're in a home of two parents or one parents, we're going to make mistakes and we're gonna have lessons. And it's just that's just how it is. If you if that don't happen. I think I've said that before, like nobody's perfect, you know what I mean. And I've said that before, and it's just like, okay, mister goody two shoes, Like clearly there's something wrong with you, Like you're insane, you're delusional, and you just think you're so perfect because you don't make mistakes, you don't make wrong decisions. Well, and also, like Dante said, he's divorced, so your son. Yeah, so I mean, but listen listen, I hey, listen. My mom and my dad was they you know, I was little when they divorced. I was like three, maybe to three years old. I mean, I've made some pretty not smart decisions. But I mean, I ain't know, dummy, I'll tell you that, Like you know what I mean, Like I'm I'm probably I'll tell you what, I'm not divorced. Well, and I'll say this too. I'll add this. We talked about Dante, we talked about job Moran last week. Right, he has two parents and he's clearly making some bad decisions right now, rightly with his father being right there, which goes to show you. And that's the last thing I said, Like, it just goes to show you a lot of these narratives that people just pedal without thinking just aren't true. Ye. Right. The reason, the reason why it's more beneficial to have man and woman in the household is a financial and economic decision. It has nothing to do with intelligence or decision making, right, It's an economic decision because two incomes are better than one, or because usually the father makes more than an en and the mother can stay at home and nurture. It's not okay, well this child is going to be smarter because he came from a two parent home. Like that's absurd. It's it's just you realize that a lot of these narratives that people spew, and really they spew them the gate keep and keep themselves a level above or to keep a certain class away from accessing them, you realize like under a microscope, they don't actually pass the test, right, Just like there, And since we're on this topic right the whole, you know, African Americans have a you know problem with fatherless homes when actually, actually the data shows that father participation rates are highest in the black community compared to others, to compared to other communities, and that children being born out of wedlock is an American issue, not just a Black issue. So, like, there are a lot of these narratives around certain family structures and things like that that make you really that instead of just going along with like a lot of people do it's like, let me, let me actually examine that, Like does that actually make sense? Does it actually is it? Does it check out that you'll be smarter and make better decisions if your mother and father are married. Now, what if your mother and father are married and your father's abusive, do you like does that have an impact on Like we don't think about this stuff. It's just like, oh, yeah, well, let's just go with oh yeah, Black people, yeah, they yeah, they don't have dads. Well, y'all ain't got no dad. Is actually our fathers are more active in our lives than any other race in this country. And just because your parents aren't married doesn't mean you don't have a dat. So it's just like it. You know, you really have to examine these things before you can, you know, just spew out rhetoric because most of the time you end up looking foolish. It's nonsense. Well, just like my like my parents, like I said, my parents split up when I was young, you know, but my parents were able to co parent, you know what I mean, And so like my father was, like I always knew where my father was. It wasn't like one of those things where it's like, man, I don't know where my daddy is, you know what I'm saying. Like I didn't have that, you know what I mean. I always knew where my father was, even though my parents weren't together anymore. Correct, So you know, it's there's nuances to it. I mean, obviously, it is important to have both a mother and father involved in a child's life for a whole host of reasons, and it is ideal to have a two parent household for financial reasons, like you said, Dante, also to have that male and female influence. Because of male and female influence is very important because we both have different talents and abilities and gifts that we can impart into children, and they're both important and unique. But also at the same time, it's not some magic elixir like you said, it doesn't it's not necessarily going to help the kid that much. If there's a two parent household and one of the parents is a piece of crap. Correct, Yeah, you know what I mean, like that that it would almost be better if they weren't there. If it's like that, you know, So that's a that's not a guarantee. And so for him to say that, especially of all people, who is divorced and his son is his quarterback, who's technically growing up in a single parent household, it shows really it shows a level of classism, I think, right, because Dion probably views his situation as different because he's rich. Correct, But it's the same situation. You just have more money then go, you know what I mean. I'm sure I'm sure Robin wouldn't have a ton ton of issues as a single parent either. She was rich. Listen, because listen, I promise you. If I'm rich, everything else, whatever, it's okay, everything else, I'm at peace, That's right. You can take care of you can take care of everything else, you know what I'm saying. So it's like, look like so it's absurd for him to say that, and he's not considering and thinking about the fact that, dude, you rich. So your situation, your situation is different, but it's in that sense, but it's still you're still raising a child a single parent also, so what you're really saying, what you're really saying, and then we can we can close here. But Dante, to me, what you're really saying is you don't want no broke kids. M to me, that's what you're really saying, because your son is growing up in the single parent household. But like you said, you, I'm sure you view it differently because you're rich. So what you're really saying is you don't want any broke kids. Close it out and let them not to follow you. I think that's a good place. I would just say again, take the time to actually like know what you're talking about. If you feel so compelled to talk about social issues or you know, family dynamics and culture and race, actually like you know what you're talking about, make sure you can back it up. Don't let it just be some you know, some narrative that has just been passed down that we just continue to accept because it's probably not true. So just a little bit of research. Folks, we live in you know, it's an information age. It's no reason for you to be dumb. It's no reason for you to be dumb. Yeah, follow me on Instagram and Twitter at tape ran tae b r y E miss O'Malley. We lost you there for a second. Um. Yeah, you can go ahead and follow me on Instagram at Real Robbin O'Malley. You can follow me on Facebook at Robin O'Malley. And I've been a little more active on TikTok lately, so you can follow me also as well there at Real Robin O'Malley. And you can follow me at d to king Pan area ware that's h k I m G p I N. We are out of here. We'll see you next time. 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